Loving People

I have been reminded that 'building community' is done by giving, not taking. When I go out with or see people I'm hoping that I can remind myself to look for opportunities to love people. To say deliberately and regularly to myself 'how can I show this person how important they are?' I'm going to pray that God shows me ways...

The question i'm left with is one of practicalities: does the loving lose value if it it not spontaneous? I'll explain.. If I ask someone how I can best love them, do my subsequent (informed) actions then decrease in value in that person's eyes?? Does it matter? Is it a weird thing to ask?!